Here's the prayer...I hope you can gain something from it and perhaps apply it to your own life as well.
"God, today I ask that you make me humble and equipped to lead with tender leadership by serving, encouraging, and doing everything in my power to make her look good in Your eyes. I ask that You give me strength to respond in kindness, affirm and support, and that my temper, tongue, and pride would not hinder my godliness or leadership. I pray that You will be honored by my life and by my marriage."
Whether you use this prayer or you write your own from scratch, identify the man you wish to be in the eyes of God and your wife and write down a prayer to remind yourself of those things on a daily basis.