After being married while engaged in pastoral ministry, I have noticed that wives of pastors are not average women. They are extraordinary women. They are women who raise the bar and cause their husbands to thank God repeatedly for them.
My wife and I met at a church camp. One of our first deep conversations was about the direction I was headed, going into seminary the following fall. She had recently felt God laying the truth on her heart that she would be a pastor's wife or be involved in church ministry in some capacity with her future husband. This was good news to a seminary student.
The past year has been full of lessons and struggles, but also joys and victories for us in ministry and our marriage. So I thought I'd share some thoughts with you about being a pastor's wife. **Note: These are not all personal lessons learned. My father was also the chair of the elder board at my home church for many years as I grew up, and my two primary mentors are both pastors. Included in this list are lessons I've seen other people learn too.
You Might Be a Pastor's Wife If...
- You feel like you attend elder board meetings vicariously through your husband
- Your husband always knows someone or someone always know him, everywhere you go
- Your house sometimes feels like an extension of the church with all the traffic it gets
- People assume that you've automatically volunteered to help with any and every church event that exists
- You are known for being incredibly hospitable and warm
- People assume you have the easiest marriage ever because your husband seems so perfect
- You are the secretary at church
- You are not the secretary at church, but people think you are
- People automatically assume you know the inside scoop on everything going on at church...and you do.
- You and a stack of books constantly war for your husband's attention
- Your husband is constantly excited to tell you something else he's learned...and you struggle to remain as enthusiastic as you wish you could be
- Date nights/days are one of the most prized times of your week: he's finally giving every ounce of attention to you and only you
- You think about about burning down the church if that would mean getting more time with your husband
- You are your husband's most vocal critic, but as soon as someone else criticizes him, you would defend him with your life
- You get roped into proof-reading or listening to the rough drafts of sermons...all the time
- If patience earned you advanced degrees, you'd have 17 more than your husband
- You've resigned yourself to the fact that there will always be more books that your husband will want but will never read...but will buy anyway
- You could pay off your house if you just sold all the Bibles laying around the place
Pastors or wives of pastors, would you add anything to this list? Add them in the comments section and share your experiences. They be serious, funny, or seriously funny! I look forward to hearing from you!
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